My 16-year-old son smokes pot and thinks it’s okay – Is it?

Question: My 16-year-old son smokes marijuana and says it is harmless, everyone does it and it’s legal in many states. How do I get him to stop smoking pot?

Answer: First off, everyone doesn’t do it. It is against the law in 42 out of 50 states to smoke marijuana and it is your responsibility as a parent to keep your child from breaking the law. What I am about to address goes for alcohol as well as marijuana. It frustrates me when I hear a parent say, “I let my teenage son drink when I am around, it’s better that way, at least I know where they are” If that is your standard, we need to have a different conversation.

Back to marijuana, I personally believe marijuana for Read More »

19 year old son is going away to college

Off to collegeQuestion:   My 19 year old son is going away to college.  Is there anything I can do to encourage him on the company he keeps and the choices he will be making?

Answer:   This is a good question because when a loved one goes away he tends to either be a follower or a leader.  I hope he is a leader.  I always recommend you get our Reality Check Program Video. You can get a free copy of the RCP video from some Read More »

My son got caught shoplifting, what will happen to him?

Not having enough information on his specific case I can’t give a direct answer. Also, being I am not a lawyer, I can’t give legal advice. I can guide you in the right direction.

The short answer; if your son is a first time offender and was charged with a misdemeanor he will probably get a diversion program like the Reality Check Program.

Let’s take a minute and get to the root cause of what happened. Why did your son shoplift? That is what I would be asking. Teens and Read More »

Misconduct After Moving

Question: My son is 14 and we just moved to Florida from New York. I see a difference in him. He talks back, doesn’t socialize with anyone, always has an attitude, and is generally disrespectful. He wasn’t like that when we lived in the big city. What do we do?

Answer: A 14 year old really shouldn’t act like that unless there is something deeper going on. A move can be a traumatic experience for anyone, no less a 14 year old boy. It could be Read More »

Tips for Parents – Are You Setting Rules? – By: Larry Lawton

Set and Enforce Family Rules

Positive Parenting, Setting Ground Rules for TeensMy teenage son thinks I’m so unfair because I try to set and enforce rules like a reasonable curfew or no going out on school nights. He always argues that none of his friends’ parents set rules. Am I being too strict?

Teenagers have limits in school, business, clubs, politics etc.  Right and wrong must be taught. This is how they learn.  Parents set limits to prepare their kids for life!
 
Talk to your kids, avoid yelling at them – they will put up a barrier.  Instead, use a calm voice and make respectful and reasonable requests.  Be clear about the consequences if the rules are not followed.

At some point in our youth, most of us tried to extend our curfew or get out of a chore by saying, “Well, so-and-so’s parents don’t have those same rules,” or “Everyone else gets to stay out later.” And I think we’ve all heard the dreaded response, “Well I’m not so-and-so’s parent.” Read More »