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Use Teachable Moments

reality check Parenting ProgramHaving a discussion with your kids about steering clear of drugs and alcohol doesn’t have to start with that goal in mind, but as a parent, finding a moment of connectedness is often the way to approach topics that are difficult to talk about. Your conversation doesn’t have to be a long and serious discussion, but perhaps, just a few words that will convey your feelings about substance use. When good, two-way communication is present, your teen’s “guard” will be down because they are focusing on the interaction.

Have fun with your kids – Doing things they like will get them involved and give you the opportunity to see them enjoy themselves. “I really enjoy spending time with you and seeing you have such a good time. I hope you always remember that you don’t ever need drugs or alcohol to have a good time.”

Discuss books or movies – Books and movies often have a theme where the characters must make choices, or they may involve drug or alcohol use. You might ask your teen “Where do you think this person might end up in life?”

Do chores together regularly – Working together in close proximity often allows for lively chatter to pass the time. This gives you an opportunity to do a little “values clarification.” You might mention a news story about drug use and ask how they feel about it

Eat dinner together as a family – Sharing a meal at the end of the day is a tradition that works for a reason. This gathering helps to debrief what’s happened that day and refocus for the next. Even if it’s not every day and even if it’s take-out, dinner matters!

Have your child teach you something – Finding a strength your teen has (e.g. – searching the Web, fishing, etc.) and allowing them to teach you something shows you trust them. Hang out – Watch a movie, sports, surf the internet. Sharing interests helps to create a bond between you and provides you time to laugh together and have fun, again allowing

Mr. Lawton is a big believer in education and communications.  It is HOW you communicate and what you say that is important.  The Reality Check Parenting Program is recognized nationally and it is a way for parents to learn about Bullying, Gangs, Drugs, and a number of other issues.  Mr. Lawton shows the family how to communicate better, tackle complex issues, discipline teens and recognize problems BEFORE they become serious.